All this stuff going on with thinking about friendships and the shower has me really down. It really sucks when no one is your ‘best friend’ but all of your friends already seem to have that bosom buddy. No matter what I do or how hard I try I don’t think I’ll be likely to change my relationship with someone who already has their “friendship” card pretty full.
That just leaves me in the boat of needed to find some who’s in the same position. I’m hoping to make some type of connection with one of the other mom’s at Hubby’s Daddy group he’s been going to. Tomorrow the group is having a family day out at the beach and I hope it goes well. I need to pick Lil’ R up some sand toys today so he has some of his own to play with. It wouldn’t be good if he was stealing all of the other kid’s toys.
Update NOT So Mopey!
I just talked with my sister-in-law the one person I know who really understands emotionally how I’m doing with all of this. I told her we weren’t planning on doing any baby shin-dig anymore because of both timing, and energy. She offered to send out an e-mail to our invite list for Ronin’s birthday to “put the bug in people’s ears” about Baby #2 and where we are registered. Also she’d say something about Ronin’s bday party being a good time to bring things, and us being too busy to get something together for the next little one and have a 2 year old bday party. It meant a lot to me that someone is willing to do something to ensure that we have the opportunity to get gifts from people. We don’t need much but every penny saved is helpful. I told her really I’d love the most from people is diapers, lol.
I'm so glad your sister-in-law is going to do that. What a relief.
ReplyDeleteI understand the sadness over best friends. I haven't really had one for years. My closest friend lives in a different state and sadly if you asked her "Who is your best friend" I'm not sure that she would say me . . .
Good luck with your family outing. Have fun and hopefully you'll meet some great ladies and one or two will eventually become your best bud.
I just caught up on the shower situation and I can so relate. I've had three kids and not a single baby shower. It sucks, I know. Like you, I just don't have a "bestie". And I guess those things usually fall to a best friend to arrange.
ReplyDeleteI hope the family day went well! We've lived in our area for three years and I still don't know anyone.
Sometimes I feel silly over my longing to have a bff or "bestie." I think it's worse is cause there is someone nearby who I feel close to, who talks of us being close and yet they keep pulling away intermittantly. It's like, hey either be my friend or not okay?
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